When my marriage was hurting (let’s face it, it was on death’s door) I was miserable and desperate. I didn’t know how to make myself happy. I didn’t think it was even possible. All I wanted was to fix my marriage and bring my husband back home, which felt like such an unrealistic fantasy.

Unsurprisingly, my husband didn’t find my misery and desperation particularly attractive. It wasn’t until I started getting serious about my self care and putting in the effort to get happy that I started to see a difference…